Our nature (read “character”) is shaped NOT through the easiest experiences of life, but during the toughest of times. It is only during the times of adversity and despair that we realize who we really are and what our capabilities are. We understand the flaws in us and fight against all odds to get out of the situation. We know what our true strengths are and yes, the areas of development, of course.
“Failures” are mere setbacks or
hindrances that loom our way in the journey of life. Every individual has to go
through the failing phases during which life seems to be totally topsy-turvy
for him. Things go hay-wire and all his arduous efforts bear him no fruitful
result, but failures again. But come on guys! That’s what life is after all.
Pause for a minute and ruminate over
this thought-pondering issue- You wouldn't have the knowledge and
wisdom you now possess, were it not for the setbacks you faced, the mistakes
you had made and the pain and suffering you had gone through.
The problem with us is that when we are
at times of difficulty, we blame our so-called “destiny”, and everyone around
us. We blame the circumstances for all those untoward things happening to us.
“Why does this happen ONLY to me?”- that’s one of the most-frequently asked
questions. But trust me readers, this happens to everyone in this earth. Speak
to anyone with whom you are close and you share a good relationship. Ask them if
they had gone through any failures or any setbacks- heart-breaking tumults,
financial crisis, losing someone who was very close to that individual, not
getting the required amount of marks they had studied for, or not getting the
position/status in the organisation they deserved… it can be anything. And I am
sure you will encounter scenarios and experiences which will change your mind.
You’ll realize the miniature of the hardships you have encountered in
your life.
If you have suffered more than your actual
share of problems in life, then perhaps, you are being prepared to serve some
greater purpose in life that will require you to be equipped with the wisdom
you have acquired through all these trials- that’s what I firmly believe in.
To put it in a more upbeat and positive
manner, I’d say that if you have gone through more of hardships and challenges,
then there is a considerable chance that you are dwelling a life completely
than others. Those who are daring will take more chances in and will naturally
experience more setbacks. On a personal front, I’d say that at least you had
the audacity of trying something hard and then failing rather than never to
have tried it at all. Living life within the confines of comfort zone, in
security, will always end up in mediocrity. If you have to achieve something
better, you’ll certainly have to try harder than others and then, chances are
considerable that you may not succeed at the first instant, or may be even
after a couple of trials. But the best part is that the experience you go
through when you prepare for something higher will make you a different
person--- more knowledgeable and humble.
Cheers!!!
